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Dignity is not negotiable

By Stan Gaba in Vanderbijlpark, S.A

The show business has all phases and grades of dignity (If not then they must create one). Every man and woman has some dignity….but why would people go to this point of humiliation in the name of fashion and trend-setting? Personally, I think it is time to effect a revolution in female manners. It is time to RESTORE their LOST DIGNITY. It is time to restore some unchangeable morals and manners. It is time we teach about DIGNITY and DECENCY. It cannot be how much our sisters make by parading themselves nude, at the expense of how hard they must work in order to make a decent living. Self-respect is the product of discipline. A sense of dignity grows with the ability to say NO to oneself.
Right now, I feel that some things done here, dressed up and paraded, said and practiced should not be allowed. Fashion, and the “right to wear whatever” comfortable should not mean indecency. Rights and Responsibilities are enjoined together! We should not lose dignity and self respect trying to make people love and appreciate us simply because of the love of money and fame. We must reject everything that seek to make us hate ourselves, and lose our human dignity and decency.

To many of my sisters who harbour the illusion of following on this trend, please keep in mind that there is nothing more attractive to men than a woman who has dignity and pride in who she is. Men secretly RESPECT a woman who is strong, has a proper value system, dreams of her own but more importantly who has a proper grounding, commanding and showing good upbringing. Dignity is the honour of our African families. Let us not prostitute ourselves, our dignity, heritage and value system for a temporary showbiz fame. Our children too, need proper and grounded role models.

To be yourself (African self) in a world that is constantly trying to make us something else is the greatest accomplishment. We are living in the period where we are being constantly reminded that we are something else other than what we are. That we are inferior, that what we are is dangerous! That, what we are is useless and ugly. That what we are is powerless. That what we are barbaric and uncivilized. We fought this in our resolve demanding to be treated as people and complete citizens of this country.

We need to fight with determination again in an effort to find and define ourselves to ourselves. We need to find that beauty and power in being who and what we are in spite of this African dignity onslaught. We need to find our space to be who we are (Africans). We need to move away from these imperialist, white capitalist standards created to redefine us differently.

I pause!

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About Editor

Constance van Niekerk is a South African-based Zimbabwean-born creative writer, poet, music lover, spoken word artist, freelance writer, blogger and educator. She has contributed to several anthologies and published her own collection, Echoes of My Heart: A Poetry Collection available for purchase on all Amazon Stores Worldwide. She is also Editor at ZimOnlineNews. Follow her on Twitter : @convanniekerk Connect with her on Facebook and Linkedin.


4 thoughts on “Dignity is not negotiable

  1. Quite interesting indeed,its just that i find the last two paragraphs part self contradicting.But well written piece


    Posted by Mambo | Oct 9, 2017, 08:15

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